I’m a Facebook slut. Or nympho—meaning I like to be on it, all the time. I do have limits though. I don’t post a new selfie every other day. I don’t poke or poke back (All I can think of is The Three Stooges poking each other in the eyes). And I try to refrain from outwardly shaming people whose opinions I consider asinine crap.
I do however, post way more cat memes than any human should. I divulge information about the boy that will probably come back to haunt him. And when I’m feeling particularly feisty I like to voice my strong opinions or play devil’s advocate on random sites just to evoke argument.
So I’m scrolling through my feed last week and up pops this meme from an anti-porn site. Now I’m not anti-porn. In fact, I like my porn—in moderation. I think it’s only a problem if your SO doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore because he’s (or she’s) wanking it 7x a day to these silicone, Botoxed beauties. Or males with 14-inch penises (24-inch when erect). Or petite she-males.
This anti-porn meme quoted Jonah Mix: “I’m not interested in a world where men really want to watch porn but resist because they’ve been shamed; I’m interested in a world where men are raised from birth with such an unshakeable understanding of women as living human beings that they are incapable of being aroused by their exploitation.” (Yeah, well, unless we’re going back to Egyptian times, good luck with that.)
So, because I was bored I posted a comment: “And I’m interested in a world where women are raised from birth with such an unshakeable sense of self-worth that they are incapable of considering the option of having to f*ck for money.”
And then I waited for the shit storm.
And it came. From both men and women. Not only did I get the “Women who do porn are sexually-empowered and they have the right to choose their own career,” but I also got “Some women actually enjoy doing porn, and it’s not because they’re drugged-up losers. They enjoy sex and like being in business for themselves.”
I fired back with examples citing former porn stars who have exposed the realities of this ugly business (like anal and vaginal tearing, and drug and alcohol dependency), as well as the running joke that women who take off their clothes for money almost always have Daddy issues, and that it became a joke only because it’s true more often than not. I stated that if these women were able to work the same amount of hours for the same amount of money sitting on their asses at a desk, instead of on someone’s face, they would choose the desk job. I also made it clear that not ALL women who get in to the porn industry have low self-esteem. Some are in fact, nymphomaniacs, and others thrive on the money and attention. But one has to ask why they thrive on the attention (self-esteem problems) and what drives them to be a nympho in the first place (trying to fulfill the emptiness inside themselves because, um, they have low fucking self-esteem!!!)
And back and forth it went. Now, when I engage in controversial discussions on Facebook it serves only as a form of verbal masturbation for me. In fact, I get more excited when I make a logical point than I do watching any porn. I realize I’ll never change anyone’s opinion, just like I’ll never convert someone who’s pro-life to pro-choice. I simply thrive on offering up intelligent, thought-out responses which maybe, just maybe allow someone to see the issue another way.
I could care less who chooses to do porn and why. I’m not an advocate for a porn-free world, and as long as viewers are paying big bucks, women (and men) will be fucking…and sucking…and spanking…and flogging. But I stand by my opinion that if women grew up with a greater sense of self, there would be fewer hookers, strippers, and porn actresses in the world.
My comment has received over 600 likes so far, so evidently there are men and women out there who share the same opinion.
What say you? I’d love to hear your opinion on the subject of porn. Is it the work of the devil filled with sinners OR empowering, sexy entertainment?
singlewritermomrants 
Jan 26, 2016 @ 00:27:39
I can’t see that women are empowered by being in porn films. I’m not a big fan of porn because it’s fake and quite often they get too close and feels like a biology show. Do the actors have a choice? If they could earn the same money in another job, surely they would? Look at playboy how demeaning is that to be called a bunny and live in a house with a dirty old man. It surely has to effect their relationships? Also there has to be a shelf life for these people? They are judged at every angle, which isn’t healthy. It’s all about the aesthetics! Big boobs, butts, big penises.. the dark side of prostitution, drugs, alcohol, anorexia. Then you have the child exploitation. Who goes to school and aims to be a porn star? Empowerment should be having a healthy sex life, a good job and not to be judged on the out side.
Jan 27, 2016 @ 08:19:15
All excellent points. Maybe there are the rare few who get in to porn initially who might have a decent head on their shoulders. I mean, I don’t think all porn actresses have come from an abused home or are runaways, but I imagine after a while that work wears on you. You always hear about the strippers who are putting themselves through law school, blah, blah, but you can’t tell me having men paw at you every night and objectify you doesn’t ultimately affect your psyche. I’m glad you, as a man recognize the fakeness of porn. Thanks for your thoughts.